Recently, I started talking to a guy I have a type of crush on. It's not like a 'date me' crush, but it's more of a 'hey you seem cool let's hang out and become friends' type of crush. Maybe you could call it a platonic crush. I'm not sure. Anyway, this got me thinking. Mostly about why people develop crushes, platonic or not, and how to talk to a person.
See, I think too much about doing things. Way too much. I will think of every possible outcome to every possible thing that could be said or done. I freak out a little bit. When it comes to an unfamiliar situation, I have this need to control the situation. I'll try and do anything possible so that I don't:
a) embarrass myself
b) make the other person(s) uncomfortable
c) just do something wrong
d) all of the above
Basically, I will waste my time thinking and thinking, but then once the actual moment of hanging out with that person, I'll panic. I will say either nothing, or too much. It's awful. Essentially, I spend so much time thinking about unrealistic things to happen during a first impression, I won't actually think about the realistic things that will happen. For example, I'll think, "Oh god, what if I fall down the stairs?" or, "What happens if I burp in their face?". I won't, however, think something like, "What happens if it goes extremely well?" or, "What conversation would be most likely?"
So, I guess as a person, I tend to drastically over-think a simple situation, which is probably not a good thing to do. I mean how hard could it be to have a simple interaction with somebody at lunch?
See, I think too much about doing things. Way too much. I will think of every possible outcome to every possible thing that could be said or done. I freak out a little bit. When it comes to an unfamiliar situation, I have this need to control the situation. I'll try and do anything possible so that I don't:
a) embarrass myself
b) make the other person(s) uncomfortable
c) just do something wrong
d) all of the above
Basically, I will waste my time thinking and thinking, but then once the actual moment of hanging out with that person, I'll panic. I will say either nothing, or too much. It's awful. Essentially, I spend so much time thinking about unrealistic things to happen during a first impression, I won't actually think about the realistic things that will happen. For example, I'll think, "Oh god, what if I fall down the stairs?" or, "What happens if I burp in their face?". I won't, however, think something like, "What happens if it goes extremely well?" or, "What conversation would be most likely?"
So, I guess as a person, I tend to drastically over-think a simple situation, which is probably not a good thing to do. I mean how hard could it be to have a simple interaction with somebody at lunch?